The dead talk ...

The top 10 things dead people want to tell living people are:

1. They're not dead.

2. They're sorry for any pain they caused.

3. There's no such thing as a devil or hell.

4. They were ready to go when they went.


5. You're not ready.

6. They finally understand what they were missing.


7. Nothing can prepare you for the beauty of the moment you arrive.


8. Don't try to understand this now, but life is exceedingly fair.

9. Your pets are as crazy, brilliant and loving, here, as they were there.


10. Life really is all about love, but not just loving those who love you...



In their own words,

The Universe

I loved this Note that I received from The Universe, and thought of sharing it with you.



Have a Nice Day.
Alisha ❤️

Don't you worry child :)

One night, while I was sitting and sipping on my green tea, I realised that I was humming the tune of ‘Don’t you worry Child’ by Swedish House Mafia. That song is surely one of my favourites, the tune jumps into my brain and bounces there forever. But for some reason, that night ... I completely zoned out and the song took me to a completely different world. Maybe I was over thinking, but I realised that the song has so much meaning to it.

It made me realise how I was so different as a kid, a little more carefree, little less judgemental, a lot more happy ... and then I grew up and reality hit me. Exactly like the song!!!

Have you ever stopped to think about the words? How the song starts with a ‘happy’ time when, as a young boy, he was the ‘king’ , on a ‘golden throne’. And then he comes back to the present and says that ‘those days are gone’ and they are now just memories. He believes that everything changed.

Isn’t life like that?? When you’re a child, you’re safe, secure, loved, carefree and happy and you suddenly grow up and you’re made to face the world!! At least I feel like that at times. Alone in a crowd! I feel that I have suddenly grown up, all independent, I feel that ... one wrong move and I’m finished, I feel judged and yes, scared !

Coming back to the song, he is surely in despair and he is broken but still finds comfort in his father’s words, ‘Don't you worry, don't you worry, child. See heaven's got a plan for you’.

I think we can all relate to this. The older we get, the more we live, the more likely we are to have our hearts broken, dreams shattered and relationships strained. But, in all these crisis whom do we turn to? A fond memory, parents, a friend?

I’ve realised, that for me as a Christian, this song has a much profound meaning. For we have a heavenly father, who invites us to come to him with all our worries and concerns – Big or Small. He tells us not to worry but to pray and tell him all our problems. Peace is ensured.

And, I am assured that God has a plan for us.

“ For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope’’ – Jer 29:11

It’s not just that ‘heaven’ has a plan for you (whatever that actually means). It is God that has a plan for you, to change and become a better person and he can even use the heartbreaks and heartaches of life to make that happen.

But all said and done, a father can have a plan for his sons life but the son can chose to ignore it. So, we cant blame God for everything that happens and all the choices we make. He has given us the gift of free will and we need to exercise it well. For example, in a real life scenario a child does have free will, but a good father exercises control over the child and at the same time, allows the child to mature and make choices. He allows his child to learn by mistakes and failures. In the same way God has a perfect will and plan but also has permissive will, which allows us to learn the hard way.


So the next time your heart is broken, your dreams shattered, you feel rejected or relationships strained, remember :

1.    Don’t worry; you have a father who will take care of it. PRAY. Ask him to help you make the right choice.

2.    He has a plan for you. TRUST IN HIM.

3.    Listen to the lyrics sometimes. It got me writing this post.

Take care :)

xoxo

- Alisha.

Are you prepared for Christmas ?

It's that time of year again !! Welcome to most of our favorite month !! 

 December has come and with it all the joys of Christmas. Christmas preparations are already doing the rounds. ( I am already done with my Christmas and new year shopping, will post it soon :P ) I am sure all of you are planning on how to decorate the house this time, brainstorming on how different can you make the crib, what gifts are you going to keep under the Christmas tree, the lights in the windows, the cards , parties with family and friends, stockings hanging in the living room, etc.   But is THIS what Christmas is ? Is it all about shouts of  "Merry Christmas" or household preparations ? I want all of you to stop and think..

Christmas can be a season of great joy. It is the day our baby Jesus was born. It is a time of God showing His great love for us. His birth brought great joy to the world.  Shepherds, wise men, and angels all shared in the excitement of knowing about this great event. They knew this was no ordinary baby. And it is no ordinary baby. We are blessed to have Jesus born for us. God send His son to this sometimes cruel and hard world so that one day, He would grow up to become a very important part of history. His story (history) is one of truth, love, and hope. It brought salvation to all of us. Without Jesus, we would all die in our sins. Jesus was born so one day the price could be paid for the things we have done that are wrong. But are we worthy to accept him? Are we clean enough to be with someone so holy, so pure?

We all know the answer. Therefore I ask you, In the midst of preparation for feasts, prepare your heart for the coming of Jesus. Our hearts are often quite full of joy, sorrow, pain, guilt and many other things. I pray that you will make room in the center of your heart for Jesus Christ, and let him work His way in to the center of your life. You may think that you've tried this before and failed. We all make mistakes. By the grace of God, we are picked up and put back on our feet, and given another chance. You will be cleansed and forgiven and then worthy to accept Jesus into your lives and homes.

 "But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong."  John 1:9

We can truly be happy at Christmas, by knowing the true meaning of Christmas ! No matter what you’re going through, your God will never give up on you. We are sons and daughters of God. Heaven is our home.

Look at Christmas in a new way this year. This is the year to invite Jesus into your heart. You will then have a "Merry Christmas." The joy and peace you will receive will last all year as you look to God for all your needs to be met.

Jesus Is The Reason For The Season! Do not take ‘Christ’ out of ‘Christmas’.

Have a Happy December !!

When a change is necessary !!

I’m sure all of you have been through this one phase in your lives where you suddenly feel that you’re not what you were and you suddenly become unhappy  with the way you’re living. I have been there too. I hated myself and what I had become. I failed to recognise myself and I was frustrated, guilty, hurt and confused. Just then, I came across a saying that read “If you don’t like where you are change it. You are not a tree !”

I reflected on it and put it into action.

These lil pointers helped me, I hope they can be of some use to you too :

BELIEVE : You have to know it in your heart that you can make your situation better. Trust in yourself ! You’re mind is a powerful weapon. Stay positive.

CREATE OPPORTUNITIES : Sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it. Like the guy? Tell him !!! Want your dream job ? Go for the interview ! You don’t like the way someone is behaving with you ? Open up ! You don’t like the person you have become ? Change yourself ! You don’t need results, give yourself a bravery award – You tried.

STRIVE HARD : You can’t expect your life to magically change. You need to work as hard as you can in order to better yourself and your life. Make a list of all that you want, create a deadline, make that your aim. Say a firm NO to everything that drives you away from your aim. You want a better tomorrow, no?

GIVE IT A CHANCE: Let go of all the emotions and pains. They don’t belong to you. You are amazing. Give yourself a chance. Like i said before, BELIEVE.

FIGURE IT OUT : If you wish your situation was different, change it! You have the power to make your life worth living. Has there ever been a person or event that has changed your life for the better? Contemplate on that event, Spend more time with that person. Find someone whom you can confide in, someone who knows you well, Someone who believes in the better you. Ask him/her to guide and correct you. You cannot always win a battle alone.

PRAY: That’s what I did, and always do. I believe, that whatever you ask in prayer with faith shall be received.

 ALL THE BEST :)

And do let me know if this helped.

You could also mail me your suggestions and queries. 

Have a nice day ahead !!!

Are you sapiosexual too ?

I am no Zombie, but let me confess – I Love Brains. I am a sapiosexual. I admit to being attracted to a cute face, or a sexy body, or a winning smile. But those things simply catch my eye. For someone to keep my attention requires the ability to uphold their side of a conversation.

I was talking to my friend today about the guy I’m into. And then realised, that it has almost been a trend now. I realised that I needed a man with good brains more than good looks.

It goes like this :

Me? I don’t care too much about the looks. I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with. I decided this all means that I am sapiosexual. – Wolfieboy.

Sapiosexual is “a behavior of becoming attracted to or aroused by intelligence and its use.” (By the way, the word sapiosexual is a neologism.)

Maybe this is why; I’ve had difficulties in my previous relationships, because eventually I’d find out that he was not as smart as I thought he was. I realised, while most girls my age want a man who is charming, well- spoken, romantic, good looking and then add “Well of course he must be smart” at the end, that is where I am different, otherwise the rest is pretty much the same. I am drawn in by the sight of intelligence, and then everything else follows. 

However, being sapiosexual can be challenging and lonely. Let me explain.  I’m out on a date.  The guy is talking and is obviously trying to engage me in some sort of (what he thinks is) “intellectual” and “funny” conversation as he knows that is what I am attracted to.  He’s totally over-doing it, and on top of that, he’s not as smart as he thinks he is.  My mind starts to wander.  I start thinking about what my friends must be up to or how the food or the table has been cooked or about another guy, and how turned on I am by his mind as well as his conversation.  Then I start thinking about how handsome he is and how much we laugh together, the jokes we crack on others and each other.  I am then interrupted by Mr. Non-Geeky.  Being the polite woman my mama raised me to be, I give him a bright smile and answer, “Oh, yes. I know i know. Listen, I have an important conference call I need to be on…” I set up my escape, and then I am out of there, free to whatsapp, call or text Mr. Smarty Pants who’s been running through my mind for the past half of an hour. Sigh

For the record, I am definitely attracted to charming, good looking, funny, caring and romantic guys. But an intelligent guy with any of the above I’m in-love with. So, I admit it…I am definitely a sapiosexual AND sapiosexy chick!

Some friends call me an intellectual snob, but I disagree. Before getting into a relationship, I need to be able to talk to him. I want nothing with a guy who is dumb. Find me a guy that can talk to me about his dreams and goals, politics, God, or about his favourite cricket or football team- even if they're not my favourite teams, find me a guy who talks to me about cars or bikes or technology though I know nothing about them, find me a guy that will beat me at coming up with the most funniest sarcastic comments (without being mean or hurtful) and I am happy.

This world - A Happy Place :)

  
No matter how bad your day is, there is always something good that comes out of it, No matter how big or small !! Everyday may not be good ... But there is always something good in everyday.

Each and every single one of you is beautiful, whether your know it or not. You all have things about you that make you, you. Embrace these things because they’re a part of you, don’t try and hide them! If people can’t appreciate that, then they’re not worth your time. No one is perfect in my mind, so don’t stress about trying to be perfect - because it’ll never happen, and you’ll never be happy trying to be someone else.


YOU ARE MORE !!!
You are so much more than you, or anyone else thinks of you. You are more than your weight, height, body type, size of your jeans, intelligence, appearance, and so on. You’re more important than you think you are, you’re more beautiful, smarter, braver, stronger… You’re way better than you think. Whether it’s for others, or ourselves. I know how it feels to feel like you’re never going to be up to someones standards, that no matter how hard you try its not enough, no matter how hard you try to be perfect - that you’re never quite there… Just not enough. But you know what I believe? You are good enough. And if someone can’t, or refuses to see that, then they’re not worth your time.


One of the biggest mistakes in life, is living it for someone else. You only have one life, one chance to do it right. Do you really want to live it with regrets?
Stop living it for your parents, or your friends. Now is the time to do what you want to do with it. You may not know what you want yet, you may not know who you are, either. Now is your time to figure that out. Make mistakes, make good choices, but most importantly, make it yours.

Sometimes we all feel lost. Like we’re in a never ending maze… The ones with bizarre mirrors, that distort your appearance. We get lost, and we lose ourselves. We lose ourselves in false appearances, lies, and anything imaginable. We get lost.  

There’s a saying “Life isn't about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself.”

But sometimes we need to find ourselves, in order to be able to create ourselves. And that can be one of the hardest challenges we face. When we were younger, we were always told to just be ourselves… Which was weird, because how could we be anyone else? Then we got older, and finally clued in to the whole thing. 

Life is like a road trip. We have many stops along the way, we get lost sometimes, and then end up in places we never thought we would, we end up in places that we never even knew existed. People help us along the way, and sometimes we get stuck. Sometimes we are so lost, it feels like there is no way out. A dead end. 

Everyone gets lost. Confused. Scared. But that’s just a pit stop. 

But you know what? Sometimes it’s not the destination. It’s the way we got there… And it’s not where we’re heading that is important, it’s how we got there. Because how we got there is this little thing called life.

Everyone has secrets. Things that they keep close to them. Things that they’re ashamed of. Things they want to forget. What you see on the outside is almost never exactly what is on the inside. So before you assume you know what someone is going through, before you assume you know someone. Think. Because you never know someones story truly. You can never really know the battles they've fought, or the things they’re struggling with. So don't judge if you don't want to be judged.

This world is a happy place. It has given us millions of reasons to live. So live, and let live. And remember Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.