Reasons to Love Colbie Caillat and 'Try'

'You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing

You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try'.......

Seven years after her debut with the hit song “Bubbly,” Caillat is still so bubbly and Infectious and Beautiful. She’s different. She seems to understand where we’re at. As a girl from Malibu, she’s a girl after my own heart. She’s seen, like I have, the skinny girls we ogle at the pool or at clubs, one part awe of how perfect they look, one part jealous because you don’t look like that. She’s witnessed, like we all have, the double standards society places on body image. Caillat just knows how to make the listener feel good.

Every song by Caillat is so positive. It’s not prudish or naive, it is clean. It is happy. She seems like a woman who isn’t bogged down by people’s perceptions of her, she stands up for herself and for what is right. Her music speaks just that.

She is someone who has a Universal appeal. Her songs skew females for sure, but so many of my guy friends sing her songs, Bubbly for instance. Her concerts are full of people of all ages, right from kids to the youth to young married couples, middle-aged couples, crazy jamming women in their 40s, also old people. What other pop artists can say the same about their shows?

She has a steadily rising stock. She delivers slowly and steadily, like a good investment and puts a lot of thought into her work. For example, Caillat recently came out with the song “Try”, it reminds us that beauty comes from within and radiates out through our being.

She repeatedly asks the question Do you like you?

Because, that is what is important. If your answer is a Yes, Congratulations; you've achieved Self-Acceptance.

However, for most of us, however, it doesn't come as easily. We wish that our boobs were bigger, or that our butt were rounder, our stomach flatter, our legs longer, our skin clearer… the list goes on and on. It’s so easy to it is so easy to long for what we do not have and ignore what we have. And that’s only the physical aspects. We may also wish we sang well, had more talents, had more likable qualities…

But ultimately, we’re not perfect. Even the girl in the magazine doesn't look like the girl in the magazine

 The song ends with, 'Take your make-up off/Let your hair down/Take a breath/Look into the mirror, at yourself/Don’t you like you?/Cause I like you.' This sums up the whole song. We need to be happy with ourselves and not do things just so that we can be accepted in society or so that you can impress a certain someone. There is so much pressure to be perfect. There are so many diets, makeup, hair products etc to “help girls out”. REALLY NOW ?!  

The music video is also great because it starts out with people of all ages with makeup and hair done but then as the song goes on they start taking off their makeup and undoing their hair and are just happy with themselves.

If you guys haven't watched it, you should. 

Always remember, you're beautiful.

Lots of Love,

Alisha.

❤️

The Laughing Heart - Charles Bukowski

your life is your life

don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.

be on the watch.

there are ways out.

there is a light somewhere.

it may not be much light but

it beats the darkness.

be on the watch.

the gods will offer you chances.

know them.

take them.

you can’t beat death but

you can beat death in life, sometimes.

and the more often you learn to do it,

the more light there will be.

your life is your life.

know it while you have it.

you are marvelous

the gods wait to delight

in you.

- Charles Bukowski

You're Beautiful

I’m sure all of you have been through situations where you hate yourself, when insecurity grips on to you. When you look at yourself in the mirror, and all you can see is you being overweight or underweight, crazy hair, puffy eyes, dry skin, oily skin, etc. Those times when you feel rejected, when you feel like you've failed. When darkness surrounds you, when you feel like the ugliest of the lot, when you feel you’re worth nothing and your existence means nothing.

I’m just here to tell you, that you’re not alone. All of us feel that way. The purpose of this post is simply to remind you, of life's pure magic, how beautiful, powerful, wonderful you are, and how far you have reached.

You've helped more than you know, you've done better than you realize and you’re closer than you think. And therefore each time you look into the mirror, you need to believe that you are more than that. Look beyond just your face or appearance, you’re not what the world or your friends think of you. You are not even what you think of yourself. YOU, my friend are beyond just labels or stereotypes; you are uniquely created, perfectly made. And therefore it goes beyond just your makeup or hairdo or the clothes you wear. Your age, or weight, eye colour, skin colour, hair colour doesn't define you. And hence, you do not need to live up to some ridiculous and unobtainable idea.

Yes, you are not perfect. But neither is anyone else. People might find you weird, being normal is boring anyway. You have been to hell and back, your resilience is beautiful. You’re beautiful because you take risks. You’re an inspiration and you’re real.

It’s normal to ask yourself “where am I going?”… “What am I to do with my life?”… “Where do I belong?” …“Who am I as a person?”  It’s okay to have angry outbursts, or to be confused about the future or about yourself and the world. Your night-time unvoiced fears, sudden tears, the sweeping highs, and rocky lows are not what define you.

You’re the most trustworthy friend, the best child to you parents, even though they might not think so. Remember, time is on your side and ‘no’ is never forever. Sit back and think of all your dreams that have already come true, I’m sure they are a lot. There, you are a legend already.

You know what is right and you know what is wrong.  You know what makes you sad and hurtful, as well as what makes you happy and fulfilled.  What a wonder it is to be you…

You are who you are. You are potential and you can truly be whatever you wish to. You are possibility, hope and ability. You can do whatever you want, accomplish things greater than you can ever think of.  You are beautiful and special. Nothing that happens in your entire life can stop your thoughts from becoming things and your words from giving you wings. Have faith; forget what everything around you tells you to be. If they don’t notice your good looks, strengths and your sashay, I feel sorry for them, because, you are beautiful.

You’re beautiful because you believe in things. Even when it’s easier to be cynical, skeptical, hyper-rational, you keep believing because you know believing in things is what makes them real. You’re beautiful for that reason, because you can do something lots of people can’t. You have been through things most people haven’t. You have been hurt, troubled and you still stay strong. You are happiness and you give people happiness.

You’re beautiful and you shouldn't wait for someone else to tell you that. You already know it, just see it. Only if you’re able to love and believe in yourself with people love and believe in you.

You are in your journey, writing the story of your precious life.  Each day of your life you write a new paragraph.  Make it a wondrous story, the most exciting and joyous adventure it can possibly become. And always remember, you’re loved.

You are beautiful!

I Love you guys.

xoxo

- Alisha.